Article by Ken Dyers



"Unless we increase our consciousness and awareness we’re going to fall a victim to all sorts of things - mostly to ourselves. Because we’re not aware of the effects, cause and effect. There is one thing you can bet on in this life, that there’s a basic law in the physical universe which is cause and effect. For every cause there is an equal and opposite effect.

But most of us are thinking about being cause over something, handling it on a cause level -but not aware of the effect unless it’s immediate. So we cause something now to get out of a problem, and the effect might be a year later, 6 months, 3 months later, but because our consciousness is based in small time slots, we live in a crisis level. “I’m unhappy so the first thing I have to do is get happy.” You never get happy if you are unhappy by deciding to be happy.

You can go and look at television, you can go and do all sorts of things to make yourself happy, but it’s not going to make you happy. The only way you are ever going to get happy is to make someone else happy and then experience their happiness. That’s a truth of life. You make someone else happy and then they make you happy. Because there is a low tolerance of happiness. They can’t stand being too happy. You keep making people happy and they say “Bugger that, I’ve gotta make you happy back again”.  Do you do that? Does that apply to you or not?

So the only way you are going to get happy is make somebody happy. Now to make somebody happy, you’ve got to look for something in them that they like. It’s no good looking at them critically and seeing what their liabilities are. That’s not going to make them happy is it? So you see a man and see his potential for nobility, for decency. And that makes him say “Oh yeah, I’m not such as bad fella am I? That bloke’s no fool and he can see that in me.” Is that real?

You see a lady and you can see her quality, her capacity for being a friend. Because there would be no domestic problems, no marriages would fail if they were friends. The big secret in all human relationships is to be friends. So anyhow, the only way you’re going to be happy is to find out ways to make others happy; that will force you to look at the qualities of other people, and not their liabilities. If you want to look at a person’s liability, they’re not going to feel happy about that at all. You look at their qualities, and they’ll look at your qualities. Is that what happens with you? Yes?

That’s a fact of life but it’s different to what we are taught. That’s different to hate, revenge and justification for doing something hurtful to someone else. See, some of society stops people from being self-motivated. They don’t want you to be independent about yourself, they want you to be in their control. They are compulsive controllers; they want to control you. To do that, they’ve got to get you to believe this and believe that, and believe something else.

My whole argument is if you believe a word I say you are a fool: Just look at it and see if it applies to you. That’s always been my… that’s how I think too, because it might be true as far as I’m concerned, but it might not be true as far as you’re concerned; it’s not the truth that you need right now. But if I validate something in you that you’ve always known - but has never been validated in you, then I’m doing a good job. I’m happy with what I’m doing.”

Ken Dyers 2005


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